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Many of us have many goals and dreams we envision for our lives, but without self-confidence, we’ll get nowhere with them. Building up confidence in yourself will give you the motivation you need to achieve everything you want out of life.

Here are three exercises you can try each day to gain the self-confidence you need.

Start a journal. A confidence-boosting journal should contain positive things you did for that day. Most people accomplish a lot of little things in the span of 24 hours, but don’t really think of them as achievements.

By putting them in a journal each day, you see how they build up over the weeks, months, and years. You might start with the simple things - like five ways you paid a random act of kindness to a stranger or three things you did that helped further your career.

It can be something as simple as holding the door open for a little old lady or reading a book about saving for retirement. As you look back on your entries of positive accomplishments, it will give you motivation to achieve even more.

List your goals in baby steps. Instead of setting a goal to accomplish the whole thing at once, try breaking it down in tiny steps that need to meet each day. Each time you get to cross off the little steps, you gain more confidence in yourself and you’ll empower yourself to reach the next step until you’ve achieved the primary goal.

If your goal is to save money for a vacation, you can plan tiny steps like placing $5 in a savings jar each day. You’ll feel good knowing you’ve done seven things for yourself one week rather than waiting until you suddenly have $1,000 falling into your lap for your upcoming holiday.

Plus, if you fail to achieve your big goals, it can diminish the self-confidence you have built up, so small goals and baby steps help you gain the esteem you’re lacking.

Read inspirational quotes. Search the Internet or purchase a book with lots of inspirational quotes on confidence or self-esteem. Read one of the quotes daily and see if you can apply it to your life throughout the day.

You can add it to your journal entry. If today’s inspirational quote talks about greeting everyone you meet that day (instead of avoiding eye contact), and then try it. At the end of the day, you can journal it as one more positive thing you accomplished.

Tiffany Washko is the editor of Nature Moms, http://www.naturemoms.com - After working several years in corporate healthcare marketing and public relations, she took time away to be a mother. This new pursuit lead her to a new passion, natural family living and writing about environmental and political issues. She currently works as a freelance writer and newspaper journalist.

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Positive affirmations are effective and beneficial tools for improving self esteem because these statements are positive, tangible energies that, by redirecting our thoughts, can alter our emotions. Perhaps, you may not have realised it but the things you tell yourself and the beliefs you have about yourself contribute in a concrete way to your self esteem. If you are feeling inadequate and weak, it is most likely you believe that you are so, and very soon your belief will become fact. In like manner, you can increase your self esteem by actively working on modifications to your self-talk and basic beliefs about yourself.

It is hard to think highly of yourself when you constantly badmouth yourself. Like a bad recording, the inner voice of your ego constantly gives subliminal feedback, and if you program it with negative thoughts, it will keep saying you’re never good enough and whittling away your self esteem. But with affirmations, you are able to drown out the negative chatter with positive statements, helping tremendously in improving self esteem.

Using positive affirmations for improving self esteem, especially at times of duress, helps you keep your composure and balance to fend off the noise from the internal negative critic. It is believed that affirmations combine the energies of conscious and subconscious minds to help attain a goal.

Here are some positive affirmation statements that you can use to help you in improving self esteem:

* I am an important and valuable human being, and I deserve to be respected by others.

* I am eager to go through a greater level of self esteem. I am worthy of it and I am prepared for it.

* I am confident about life; I always long for and enjoy new challenges.

* I am a unique person and a creative individual.

* As I build up my self esteem, I feel better about self, my work, my relationships, and every aspect of my life.

* I am actively in control of my life and lead it in productive channels.

* I take time to get to know myself and I treat myself with respect.

* I feel valuable even if I am aware that I have made a mistake.

* I am an action person, and I define my priorities and do things one at a time.

* I take compliments without doubt and give them readily to others.

Improving self esteem is an active and continuing process. Say these positive affirmations on a daily basis and see the difference that they can make to your life.

Evelyn Lim shares inspiring stories, her own journey and useful tips on her blog. She is driven by her desire to help others, after having gone through years of despair, confusion and self confidence issues. Click over here for her self help articles at http://www.AttractionMindMap.com.

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Even the most outwardly confident person has times when they would appreciate more self confidence. For the rest of us mere mortals, here are some helpful tips for improving self confidence.

1. Stop putting yourself down

We all have an inner voice. You know, the one that nags you incessantly if you get the slightest thing wrong. You wouldn’t let anyone else talk to you in that tone of voice, so don’t let yourself do it either! This takes a little practice but the essence is that every time you hear yourself criticizing you, tell that voice to go away (your choice on how polite you are when you do this!)

2. Play to your strengths

You’re good at quite a lot of things if you think about it. Play to these strengths. Do more of the things you’re good at. You’ll find your confidence improving as you become more successful at these. Success breeds success, so it will spill over into other areas of your life.

3. Stop being so negative!

Cut down on your intake of negative things. Turn off the news. Don’t read a newspaper. These two can be scary but other people will tell you if anything actually important hits the news. Don’t be negative about yourself either - stop saying that you’ll never be any good at whatever it is. As far as possible, don’t let others be negative about you either.

4. Set achievable goals

Set them out step by step. You wouldn’t climb a whole mountain in one giant leap. Split your goals into “bite sized chunks” so that you are constantly achieving something towards your goals. The regular sense of achievement will start boosting your confidence.

5. Remember a positive event

Go back to when you were more confident - it doesn’t matter when particularly. Remember what you felt like. See yourself being confident and calm and collected. Make this image larger and more colorful. Add in the sounds that were there when you were feeling so full of confidence. Then “anchor” that feeling - maybe touch your left earlobe, maybe pinch your thumb and middle finger together, whatever you can use to easily “anchor” the feeling. Repeat this a few times and you’ll find that the simple firing of your trigger will bring back these warm, happy, confident feelings.

6. Be yourself

You are who you are. Over time, you can use various self improvement techniques to work on yourself and improve things you want to change. But accept yourself as you are - you’ll actually find you’re probably quite likeable “as is”.

7. Celebrate failure

You didn’t learn to walk the first time you wobbled onto two feet. You probably weren’t a natural bicycle rider or car driver either. As we grow older, we seem to expect to be able to do new things brilliantly the first time we try them. Unless it’s painting by numbers or something equally facile, this doesn’t happen in real life. Each failed attempt is just one more way you’ve learned how not to do something. Learn from your mistakes and build on your successes.

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This is your gentle reminder of your ongoing work on your self-esteem, and positive self-image. Everyday we have opportunities to bring in positive thoughts and messages about ourselves and our lives; We just have to learn how to be conscious and aware of these opportunities.

The purpose of this message is to bring to you an affirmation and meditation that you can utilize throughout the week so that your thoughts, your energy and ultimately, your feelings about yourself become more positive and your life will reflect these changes.

This article focuses on the core message from which everything else grows:

“Who I am is enough!”

Take in a slow deep breath as you make this statement, and slowly release it, and let the message settle in to your system.

Take another deep breath and say the phrase again , slowly, and out loud. Hear the words; “Who I am is enough”.

Take a deep breath again and feel where in your body the message gets blocked or stuck. Ask yourself: “Do I believe this statement without any ifs, ands or buts?”

If the answer is no, then take an extra moment to reflect on what it means to be enough…

“What is enough?” Do you know?

What’s enough food?; Enough sleep?; Enough time?; Enough love?; Enough energy?; If you do say this statement and believe it without any “ifs, ands or buts”, then allow the warm feeling to settle in as you consciously and lovingly remind yourself of who you are.

Breathe in and out slowly and deeply and repeat the statement

“Who I am is enough.”

Really allow yourself to sit with the feelings that go through you and what it means to let yourself believe this message.

This is where everyone must begin, because somewhere, at sometime, or times, in your life you knew that you really were enough and you still are today!

Sit with this… connect with the positive feelings these memories bring back. If nothing emerges right away, repeat the message:

“Who I am is enough” throughout your day, throughout your week. No judgments, no criticisms, just a deep abiding awareness that a shift is occurring in your life, and you are open to it. Take a deep breath… and allow that breath to fill you completely. “Who I am is Enough!”

As simple as these words are, they are really very meaningful and powerful. Within each of us exists the knowledge and belief that we really are enough. It’s time now to shed the messages that have been absorbed over the years that have undermined the truth “Who I Am Is Enough”, and live according to the belief that you really are enough just by being you. As always, I wish you all the best!

Loren Gelberg-Goff loren@wellfromwithin.com journey to self-esteem and self-empowerment to live authentically self-esteem.

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There is only one truth to success. This applies no matter your age, sex, religion or abilities. You are the one who has the ability to change who and what you are. What is the one truth you ask? You have to believe in yourself.

While you can ask for guidance, seek out the opinions of friends, or read many inspirational books, poems, or stories, it is up to you to make life altering changes that can move you forward.

Part of your own strategy should be to release those around you that cause you to question your own self-worth, or cause you to challenge your new path. It is far too common an experience that sees those close to you want to hold you back because of jealousness of where you intend to go. For these types of people, it is far easier, and safer to hold on to what they already know. If you give in to these kinds of pressures, they win and you lose.

In order for you to move beyond your life today, to move beyond what you have now, or to move through challenging circumstances, you have to have a burning desire to relinquish the way you are now and burst through your “comfort zone”. Make no mistake, however, in that the first step taken away from your “comfort zone” will be the most difficult.

Here’s a simple example. Let’s say that you know you have to move to a new city because there are opportunities for you to secure a promising career not available to you where you reside. But, you have never before lived away from your present surroundings where you have close family ties and an abundance of friends, and where there is security in knowing your way around. You’ve sent out several resumes for new job possibilities. But, you also know that you can always decline to attend an interview. In other words, you are still safe within your “comfort zone”.

The crucial test comes when you receive an invitation to attend an interview for a job opportunity you know is just right for you. Now, comes the hard part. Do you accept the invitation, or do you decline? Do you stay within the safety of your “comfort zone”, or do you take that first step that can help you move beyond. You can use all the excuses you can think of to relinquish this opportunity, or you can conquer your fear by taking action. You alone must decide - it is not up to anyone be they friend, or family member.

Everyone of us, at some for another, has had to make a hard choice to begin a transformation, to make a bold step that challenges our view of comfort, the known, the less feared. Believe in yourself, your abilities, and your spirit to be better. You are your own champion - there is no one else that can take whatever steps are required other than you. Believe and you will achieve.

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My son has been very overweight, possibly bordering obese, since first grade. He’s a happy go lucky kind of kid so for a long time, I hoped and prayed that his weight had very little effect on his self esteem or on his self worth. We all went out of our way to encourage and praise him for his other amazing attributes so that he would know that we loved him no matter what.

However, despite our best efforts over time I noticed a change. My easy going kid turned sullen and moody. I tried to draw the reason out of him, but he would never say what was bothering him. He could not articulate it, but when I volunteered at school, I noticed that he was not approaching or engaging with other kids as he once was. He also was not trying out for extracurricular activities or becoming involved in school. Rarely would he even look me in the eye anymore.

I did not need a psychologist to tell me what was happening. My son did not see himself worthy of friendship, sports, or school honors because of his weight. It was because of this and his potential health issues that we put him on a diet.

We tried several diets, but none were successful for us until we tried Trim Kids by ediets. Interestingly, this is the program which was the least expensive and least invasive to our family. Basically, they customize a diet plan for your child and for less than $5 per week, you have access to doctors, nutritionists, kid friendly recipes, shopping lists, exercise routines and info, and the awesome support that will transform your family and the way that it eats and moves. The recipes really helped us. They were not foreign weird health foods or bland diet foods but stuff our family would really eat and enjoy. Not cottage cheese and veggie kind of stuff but cheesy, crusty macaroni and cheese kind of stuff.

My son saw pretty dramatic results pretty quickly. We were a few months into the program when I noticed his attitude change and his old self emerging. One day I got the courage to comment that I was so glad to see him back and he responded “Mom, I’ve finally been able to keep a promise to myself.” He had tried to change many times and had failed and it was not necessarily the weight but his failure to make a commitment and succeed that was troubling him.

He’s lost twenty pounds and counting. We’re still going strong and won’t ever quit. My whole family has benefited from eating better and the foods are something we can live with long term.

Honestly, no matter how much I built him up, I don’t think his self esteem would’ve ever remained in tact if we allowed him to stay the way he was. Deep down, he would’ve known he’d given up and not kept his promises.

My advice to other parents would be to find a program you can live with, involve your whole family, and stick with it. Otherwise, your child is going to know he’s stuck not reaching his best potential. Once you make a positive change, even if it’s slow going, he will know you love him enough to take him on a new, brighter path.

I have learned that no matter how well they hide it, children are not ok with being overweight. They know they are different and they are frustrated that they can’t change it. But, we as parents CAN change it. I am so grateful that I did. I will love my child no matter what size he is, but it’s a lot better for me as a mom to see him happy again.

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On the Internet, when you have a question you run it through a search engine. You “Google it” as they say. So it is not surprising that many people, when they, or someone close to them, show signs of dyslexia, go online to look for information. One term typed in frequently is “free dyslexia test”.

Is there a free dyslexia test?

Well, yes and no. It depends on how you define “test”. If you define test as something quick that will give you some indications, then the answer is yes.

If, on the other hand, you define test as thoroughly checking to know for sure, the answer is no.

Preliminary testing is for quick indications, to determine if a thorough test is a good idea or not. You can get that for free. Such a free dyslexia test could include:

** A family history of dyslexia. Dyslexia tends to run in families. If you have a parent or grandparent, sibling or first cousin with dyslexia, then a thorough test could be indicated.

** Personal difficulty with transcribing numbers or words exactly, or manipulating them mentally. Such as “recite the months of the year in reverse” (without practice, of course).

If you stumble, find it difficult, make frequent errors, that would be an indication of possible dyslexia. However, if you can do these things quickly, precisely and without error, that would be an indication that you are not dyslexic.

** Similarly, if you can speed-read at 1,000 words per minute with 95% comprehension on reading tests, you are probably not dyslexic. If reading is difficult for you, if you read word for word and have to keep re-reading to get the gist of what the text says, you might be dyslexic (or a poorly trained reader).

** There are questionnaires available that you can take. You can find one with 20 questions by visiting the links below. You answer the questions, then use the key to see if you answered like the dyslexics who took the test or like the non-dyslexics.

If there are indications that bother you, if you are not sure whether or not dyslexia is your problem, the answer is to take a formal professional test. A test will measure your responses and tell you either no, you are not dyslexic, or yes you are and if yes, by how much.

That won’t be a free dyslexia test. But it won’t cost you more than an average dinner for two in a reasonably nice restaurant. That is a small price to pay for peace of mind. Or for identifying and getting on the road to overcoming any problems you might have.

Testing is the key to diagnosis. Diagnosis is the key to identifying any possible problems. Identifying the problems is the key to overcoming them. Overcoming them is the key to success, happiness, self esteem and getting the most out of your life.

For more details about dyslexia, how to find a free dyslexia test and how to know for sure if you are dyslexic or not, follow the links below…

For more information about adult dyslexia, visit: Guide to Adult Dyslexia
For information about adult dyslexia testing (that you can do from anywhere), visit: Free Dyslexia Test|Home Dyslexia Test
Jorge Chavez is a researcher, analyst and writer at http://overcoming-dyslexia.com

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We think that just a few people have a problem of low self esteem, but most people that you know have or had a problem of low self esteem at some point. It begins when you are a child, you start to learn new things, you have your first friends, values and beliefs some of them are good and some not.

Then as we grow up, we accepted those negative and positive beliefs about ourself, thinking that this is how you are and there is no way to change it. However, many negative beliefs that we acquire as kids are not true and we should change them.

So, how do we identify low self esteem signs?

There are many tings that you will see in a person with low self confidence, for example they don’t want to go to a party because they don’t want to see to many people. Usually they are afraid of what other people will say about them.

They tend to accept what everyone else says, if he does not agree with something, he will avoid conflict and not say his views or opinion on the topic.

Another sign is that they don’t try new things or don’t like to take risks because they don’t trust themselves they think that they don’t have the capabilities of achieving something difficult.

Also a person that depends on others to take decisions and that needs to be around people he loves to feel a little confident.

However although those are some signs of low self esteem, it can be a little complex in some cases, there are people that are not shy, that are productive, talk loud and impose their decisions, but inside they have a low self esteem, how can this be? You will notice, that maybe he yells at people and likes to feel strong between other people, he humiliates other, those kid of actions are from a person that has a low self esteem and needs to reinforce him self by feeling greater and stronger than other.

There are many other signs that people with low confidence have, however it can be improved, especially in a child, but also an adult person can make improvement by changing his self image, there are some books that talk about this like “psycho cybernetics”.

There is a lot more that you can learn to understand the real causes and improve your self esteem, visit: books on low self esteem

at http://www.selfesteemimprovementtips.com

You can also read about: beauty pageants and body image self esteem

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If you find yourself feeling like you’re “in a rut” and not appreciating yourself as much as you should, there are simple changes you can make to improve self-confidence and take charge of your life again. Confidence affects every area of life, from relationships to the workplace. And improving your self-confidence will always have a beneficial effect on both your relationships with others, and your ability to handle the little ups and downs that life can throw at us from time to time.

As a personal development coach, I have worked with many individuals to increase self-esteem and self-acceptance. The following 10 tips have proven time and again to improve self-confidence for a wide variety of people.

1. Clothes Make the Man and Woman. Yes, it’s an old cliche’, but that doesn’t make it any less true. When we dress confidently, we feel confident. Try this experiment: for one week, dress like the person you want to be, NOT the person you think you are. This one is simple change can dramatically improve self-confidence.

2. Stop Trying so Hard. Improving confidence should not be about struggling. Give up trying to be a perfectionist, and give yourself permission to be a human being who will naturally make mistakes sometimes. A sure-fire way to feel inferior is to set the bar too high in every area of your life. Cut yourself some slack — you deserve it.

3. Focus Your Attention Outward. Lack of confidence often causes people to focus an inordinate amount of attention inward, on the “self.” Make it a point to focus more attention on others than you do on yourself. Remember, confident people focus outward — insecure people focus inward.

4. Avoid Energy Vampires. All of us know someone who seems to “suck the energy” out of a room just by entering. Give yourself permission to minimize contact with these people. Don’t hate them or judge them in any way. Just recognize that they do not improve the quality of your life, and minimize your connection with them.

5. Take a Chance. Try something new and different that you may have been apprehensive about in the past. Enroll in an adult education class, or join a book club, gym, bowling league or other social pastime. Shake up your life a little bit. The change will do you good, and your self-confidence will improve.

6. Be a Giver. There is an old proverb that says “you only get what you give.” With that in mind, start giving what you want to receive in life. Make other people feel as confident and worthwhile as you can. By helping to build up confident feelings in others, you are sure to get back the same thing. Call it karma or what ever you like — it always works.

7. Practice Forgiveness. Many people are very hard on themselves because, deep down, they have not forgiven themselves for something in their past. If you’re clinging to some failure or transgression from the past, recognize that you are doing it and then forgive yourself completely for whatever it was. Likewise, if there is someone else in your life you need to forgive, make it a point to do so. NOT for their sake — but for yours. When we forgive, we purify our heart and start anew.

8. Affirmations: Ask Yourself the Right Questions. Some people repeat affirmations such as “I am self confident,” which is fine, but you can improve your affirmation results by using leading questions such as, “why am I so confident?” The subconscious mind operates in a very simple manner. When you ask it a question like this, it will immediately go to work looking for the answer, and it will report back to you all of the ways you already are confident.

9. “Model” Other Confident People. One way to improve self-confidence is to model the behavior of people whom you consider to be supremely confident. If you can befriend a very confident person, that’s great. But if not, just find an actor or other celebrity who is confidence personified, and study their behavior. Do this several times a week, and some of their confident mannerisms are bound to rub off on you.

10. Practice Gratitude. A grateful mind is a peaceful mind, and a peaceful mind radiates confidence. Practice making a daily gratitude list, and particularly focus on different aspects of yourself that you appreciate. Maybe you are a great swimmer, or good at math, or really strong, or a good dancer, or have an unusual sense of humor, or are good at design, or a great singer, or a really good friend, or any number of other positive attributes. Look for what is great about you, and then be grateful you have those qualities. Appreciating your good qualities will improve self-confidence, and help you develop the kind of positive self-image that is crucial to success in life.

Finally, you can improve self confidence without endless affirmations or struggling! Discover how to build self confidence the easy way.

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Are you looking for ways to make your life run more smoothly? Making lists might be just what you are looking for since they help you focus on what needs to be done now and in the future. The following organizing tips are easy ways to incorporate the use of lists into your every day life.

The practice of writing down the six most important things you need to do each day is a business sales training technique that really works. Be precise when making your list and review the list each morning. After three weeks of practice this will become automatic and can be used as an organizing tool for both your personal as well as business life.

Creating a list for packing a suitcase is a must for anyone who is constantly on the go. Putting the information on a spreadsheet makes printing it and checking off the items a snap! Leave room to write down miscellaneous items you will need for each trip depending on our destination.

Another very useful organizing tip is to use a house checklist when you leave for a few days; it makes getting out the door much easier and will give you peace of mind. Again, entering the information on a spreadsheet that you can print out makes the check off process effortless. On your house checklist include items, such as resetting the thermostat, putting a hold on the mail, turning off lights, unplugging small kitchen appliances, and even turning off the main water supply depending on the time of year.

On a day-to-day basis write down those items you want to buy or errands you need to run. By looking at this list you will plan your time away from home more efficiently, you will not forget anything, and not have to backtrack because you did forgot something.

All of these suggestions for using lists to organize your life are useful tools rather than annoyances. It may take a while to integrate these organizing tips into your life, but you will be glad that you took the time and effort to put them into practice.

To help keep your home organized, download a free copy of the ebook “The Essential Guide to Organizing Your Home”. Download it free here: Organizing Tips.

Lynn Cressy has a love for decorating and shopping for home decor. She owns a home decor web site and writes articles on home decorating and organizing your home and your life.

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